ummm…I want more

My hair gadget from Australia arrived. It worked on the first try, not the prettiest pony on the block, but it served its purpose. I have been trying different ways of doing it to see what works best. Leaning back on couch. Laying on the floor. I have found that being slanted is key to help the hair fall in the right direction and have my hands angled correctly.

The drawback is the long string. What the heck should I do with it? I struggle to wrap it around my pony tight enough to look decent and don’t have the strength to tuck the end so it stays.  Since I have only worn it around the house, I just let the long string hang like a tail. One time it got stuck in the couch cushion and yanked my hair when I stood up. Another time I got it caught in the bathroom door.   

After developing a slight fear of strangulation from this elastic bully, I started tucking it in my shirt.  This instantly decreased my odds of whiplash but I found that the pony slowly slides out from the string being tugged on by my shirt.  Lame.

I appreciate the independence of being able to pull my hair back on my own but I still want more. For now I am holding on to my hopes for a pony machine. Always dream big. 

Amazing AMCers: Meet Tracey Schalk

My fellow AMC buddy Tracey shares my ponytail woes. Well, she shared them. This is now another thing she mastered.

Limitations are often the catalyst to conversations where great ideas flow.  It inspires creativity.  It pushes you to try.  No one likes to be told no.

I love Tracey’s video showing how she found a way to pull her hair back without help.  It’s awesome! I want to master this too – I recently ordered the 1-Up Hair Tie from Australia, I’m hoping it works.  Stay tuned for updates!


Ponytails. You see girls pulling their hair back as they walk down the sidewalk. In the locker room before gym class. Or even the dreamy DeAndre Brackensick from American Idol who whipped his curly locks into a perfect ponytail every week.

You may have never given it a thought. It takes seconds to do. Unless you have AMC.

We are all different but most of the AMC ladies I connected with have some variation of bent hands, elbows, limited shoulder range and weak hands/fingers. This puts a big fat damper on our ponytail dreams. 

So just like I covet those who can walk, pull a suitcase, talk on the phone and wear heels at the same time – I also want to be you, the girl who easily throws your hair back in a cute pony.

I dream of a machine. It would look kind of like those big hair dryers they once used.  But it would have a vacuum force that would suck back my hair in the perfect fashion (there would be settings…high pony, low pony, pony with volume on top, pony with volume and thin headband) and then robotic fingers would wrap the elastic band around the hair. It would be so awesome. 

I found things that work for around the house. Clips, headbands and combs are easier to do.  They give you a break from the hair but totally not something you’d sport in public. Last time I had my hair cut the stylist started to flat iron it and I was like, “ehh could I actually have a ponytail?” She looked at me like I was off my rocker. She had no idea that having a pony was a treat.

In our AMC Facebook group this pony discussion led to some awesome ideas. I’m hoping that more will come from my stylist friends and family.  We need your help!

Top 5 Tricks I Learned From Fellow AMCers:

  1. Lay on edge of bed or couch – gravity helps pull arms and hair back
  2. Take a long string and put around neck, lean back and pull the string up. Tie a knot, cut the extra string.
  3. Pull hair to the side and braid (I personally think this would be hard or maybe I just need longer hair)
  4. Hair sticks
  5. Ask for help

Most of us hate asking for help – even though the world doesn’t mind – we do. You also don’t want to be picky because you are just glad that they pulled it back.  So you might get stuck with a bumpy pony or one that is not high or low enough.

I joked in the string of comments that AMC girls need to marry stylists.  However, I didn’t marry a stylist but I am eternally thankful to have found a guy who can pull off the perfect ponytail in 30 seconds flat and is not too macho to do it. With every ponytail I love him a little bit more than the day before.

I’m still holding out for my machine though. I think it would make the world a better place.


PLEASE WATCH: Morning Blend 4/2

When I started my blog and began sharing my parenting journey as a blogger on I never imagined the people that would cross my path both face-to-face and via the cyber world. 

Telling personal struggles isn’t easy. I’m the girl who hates to ask for help. Having a physical disability is probably good for me. It forces me need others. Keeps me humble.

I’m excited to be on the Morning Blend as part of a panel discussion on living with a disability this Monday morning (4/2). I’d love for you to tune in or set your DVR to check it out.

Segment summary:

Parenting is hard enough as it is, now take that and amplify it. Imagine being a disabled parent trying to raise your children, suddenly things are seem much more complicated. Join us as we talk to those who know firsthand how difficult, yet rewarding, being a disabled parent can be.