I always felt like my son and I had an unspoken
understanding. I like to imagine that in
the final seconds before he was born God sweetly whispered to Oliver, “be good
for your mommy, she needs your help.”
Throughout the past three years my husband was more of the “mama
bear” in the house since he had to carry him and help with the things I couldn’t
do. Oliver tends to give him a hard time on
things that he easily does for me. I’m
not sure why but it gets frustrating.
Last Friday my husband had a fairly serious ear surgery – removing
a cyst/tumor-like growth and rebuilding bones, using a drill, etc. You can imagine how his head and ear felt
after all that. As we came home from the hospital and he landed on the couch, I
began my brief journey with solo parenting.
Let me start by sending any single moms out there a hug..and
a nap…it’s exhausting!
My husband was around but he was in pain, tired, medicated
and under strict orders to rest and not lift anything.
One night Oliver asked my husband to lift him and he said he
couldn’t. Then Oliver said, “mama you can’t carry me, you’re too short.” This was the first time he verbally recognized
that I don’t carry him. His reason behind it still makes me grin…I know I’m no
giant but sheesh, 5’1 isn’t THAT short…
Since he turned three it seems as if he has learned a few
He likes to negotiate.
He knows he can out run me.
He knows I can’t grab him and carry him away when he’s
Day one of getting him ready for daycare involved major
drama getting him dressed. He wanted to
chill in his jammies and stay home with dad.
Once we got outside to the car, he ran to the other side of the car wanting
me to chase him around the car. Knowing
it was a battle I’d never win, I just opened his door and stood there surfing
Facebook on my phone until he got bored.
The next day came with an instant replay of getting
dressed. My husband was trying to help
which just made it worse. By the time it
came to the final battle of getting on his jacket, I was feeling like a sweaty
mess. I threw my coat on the ground while trying to put on his coat. After getting him set, he managed to trip on
my coat…fall…hit his head and major waterworks followed.
Shoot me now.
I was insanely happy to go to work. Almost giddy.
That night when I picked him up I was hoping for a clean
slate and some much needed mercy. He
followed me to the car like an angel. He climbed in great. After that it all went downhill. He refused
to sit in his car seat. In the awkward
cramped car I didn’t stand a chance of pulling him up into the
seat and buckling him in without his cooperation. It was dark, cold and I just wanted to go
home. So I stood there in his door while
he sat in the front seat refusing to get buckled up. I have no idea how long it took but
eventually I outmatched him and he made his way back to his seat.
As time passes the challenges change. The days of dealing with carrying a car seat
are gone. No more changing diapers. The
new battles are totally easier on the pride because in the end I WILL win but
are emotionally exhausting.
AMC mommies out there…what have you experienced?